[00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to another episode of the So Here For It podcast. I am your host, Amy Mingin, and it is a pleasure to have you here today. I'm going to remind you of something just before we get started, that some of you have listened to every single episode and I am so grateful for that. And can I ask a favor? Before we get started can you please share this podcast with one person. One person who you know it's going to change their life, they're going to love having me in their ears. And then I'm going to get started. So thank you. I'm going to pre thank all of you. And then we're going to get started because today we're talking all about discipline frequency.
I wonder if you've ever thought about discipline and you've thought about how it has affected your life in both positive and negative ways. And I wonder if the word consistency comes up for you as well, because there is a whole plethora of books and self help and courses and everything about [00:01:00] productivity, particularly for entrepreneurs, but also business owners. And a lot of people will tell me that they struggle with their consistency.
But I'm going to say this. If you're more disciplined, it will give you the freedom to be more consistent. If you're more disciplined with the things that matter, consistency ends up becoming something that is just a given in your life.
So let's start with that. I want you to imagine being able to overcome your inconsistent patterns simply through switching up your frequency. Because there's going to be a couple of different ways that I'm going to talk about discipline frequency, one in an energetic sense and the other one in a more practical sense.
And so let's think about discipline and frequency and think about your frequency. When you're disciplined, when you're consistent, what is your frequency? Think about it. It's more stable. It's focused. It's probably relaxed and calm and it's forward moving. [00:02:00] So that style of frequency, it knows what the heck is going on, right?
Now think about those times where you start something, you don't finish it, you go start another thing. Before you know it, the whole house is kind of like a bit of a bomb has gone off because you've started multiple things. You've got multiple tabs open on your computer. You're busy scrolling social media at the same time as watching TV at the same time as got washing on at the same time as doing up your new sales page. And it just ain't it.
I was reading a book the other day because I am bringing on a team. It's really, really exciting. And I want to be a leader rather than a boss. And what I mean by this is when I'm leading myself, when I'm leading a team, I want to make sure that what I provide for them is the space for them to grow rather than them just waiting for me to tell them what to do all the time.
I love it when people [00:03:00] can be empowered. I love it when people can help me out in my business, but also feel like they are autonomous in their role as well. So anyway, I'm listening to this audio book. And one of the things that they said inside this audio book is around multitasking. And the guy said, he gave a task.
He's like, write a sentence. So the people wrote a sentence. And he goes, now write the second sentence. And they wrote the sentence. It took them about like seven seconds per sentence. And he goes, all right now the second part of this, I want you to write both sentences at the same time.
And people laughed.. They're like, we can't do that. He's like, exactly, you can't focus on two things at once. If you do, it's not a very good focus. Right? He goes, okay, well let's go one letter from the first sentence, and then the first letter from the second sentence, and then the second letter from the first second sentence and the second letter from the second sentence, and so on and so forth.
Some people in the audience actually got [00:04:00] it and took them about 90 seconds. But how's that 90 seconds compared to about 14 seconds. It's a really big difference. And I think a lot of people think that they're really bad at consistency or they're bad at discipline, but they're not.
The nervous system is dysregulated. They are in a low discipline frequency. And so if you're scattered, if you're easily manipulated, if your attention is split, if you think that by multitasking, you're going to get anywhere in life. Then keep listening. Because there's a way through this, first and foremost. And I've talked about this so many times, but I really want it to hit home.
The most important thing is to bring in these teeny tiny things that are going to be very easy for you to implement every single day. There's your consistency, but it's the most important thing. So don't be disciplined. Like here's the definition of burnout, you're being disciplined around the wrong things in your life.
You're people pleasing. [00:05:00] Your energy is getting like totally used up in all the areas that don't really matter, that aren't going to make you a better person, that aren't helping the collective, that aren't making you more money, that aren't improving your health, that aren't improving your relationships.
Can you see how we misutilise our time and we misutilise our own energetic frequency to apply the discipline to the wrong areas, so many times in our lives. I'm not saying I'm perfect at this. I am far from perfect. Like I have my human moments every single day. But there's one thing that I would say that I have the discipline around and that is my health. And my health is a foundation of everything in my life.
And while I'm looking after my health, everything else feeds through that. So you find what your top value is and how will you know what your top value is? It's the thing you think about the most. It's the thing that without a doubt, you will put it first. It might be your family. It might be your business. It might be [00:06:00] making money. Have a look at your behaviors and that'll show you where your current values are. And if you're not okay with where your current values are, you can utilize discipline. You can utilize a higher frequency in order to change. So nothing is forever.
This is the beauty of having this podcast. This is the beauty of being able to talk to you each week. It's really, really important that you let yourself change. Because the only person who can help you change is you. And the only person who can decide something new is you. The only person who can take action on this discipline, on this consistency, is you.
So take responsibility. This is a really beautiful, big year. I can feel the expansion. And I know so many people are so ready to change this year. And I'm really, really excited about it. But in order to change, we need to bring in these teeny tiny habit changes in order to bring the discipline so that we can feel the freedom on the other side.
Like I want you to consider if I were to be in alignment with my top value right now, what else [00:07:00] needs to change? What actions do I need to take every single day? And they can be the tiniest things. Like if you have decided you want to work on your health this year, then you need a plan. Let me know. I can put catalyst link down in the show notes, but reach out to me on social media and we can chat about it.
The reason why most people fail is because they don't have a plan. And if they can learn to have a plan, guess what happens? They start to get results. So it's really, really important that you bring a plan in, whatever you are focused on. If your plan is to build a better business, then get a plan in place, get a plan in place.
And if you don't know how to make a plan, then you need to reach out and ask for help. It was one of the things that I let go of in 2024 is thinking that I needed to do everything by myself. It was this really weird, limiting belief that I thought that I had to do everything myself. And this year, Oh, my heart feels so [00:08:00] expanded by saying, I'm bringing on a team.
Like I literally have three team members starting this year and oh my goodness, there is so much expansive movement in that. And also like a good amount of what I would consider eustress. Now eustress is how we would build a really great disciplined routine. And the eustress is like, you think about if you've got someone who is requiring you to have something done so that they can do their job.
How good is that? If you've got somebody who's asking a question that's related to the result that you want to get, of course, you're going to answer it. Right? So it feels really, really great to have people coming in to help me, to have people coming in so that I can be even more disciplined and even more consistent moving through this year. So excited.
Now, I also want to talk about some of the people who I would consider weekend warriors. So back when I used to do, uh, we used to do trail runs, like events, I'm just [00:09:00] doing trail running as like an amateur sport these days, like we go to the trails every Sunday. We're not going in any events this year, purely because this year is more focused on business.
And last year was like such the running year. Anyway, back in 2019 into 2020. No, it was, or was it? Yeah, 2019. It was, I was training for triathlons and that training took over my life. It really did. But one thing that I learned inside of that training is this concept of the weekend warrior. Now, it's like the lawyers and the accountants and the people who had the money to buy the equipment, but they didn't have the time during the week to actually do the training because they were too busy working.
And so the weekend warrior would do these massive intensives on weekends, thinking that that is going to get them the results that they want. Meanwhile, here's me, I had to build myself up because I was quite unfit at the beginning, particularly cardio wise. And it [00:10:00] felt like such a big stress on my body.
And I had to pretty much learn to swim again. It was a lot. But I was doing maybe half an hour a day, every single day, seven days a week, but just half an hour a day. Now think about that, that incrementally over the week. So what does that equal? Like three and a half hours of exercise over the week, as opposed to the weekend warriors probably did like five hours over the weekend.
Yeah maybe they did more overall, maybe the workload seemed more, but I was doing these smaller steps throughout the week so then I could allow my body to adapt. And one of those people that is so much more about the increments, the consistency over time to build a sustainable result, as opposed to just going gung ho and smashing it and then doing nothing.
Like I just have never enjoyed that. I don't like the concept of going all in and then nothing. There's this all or nothing. And I spoke about that last week. [00:11:00] And it's just like, if we can let ourselves let go of that all or nothing, cause that's one of the common pitfalls. Somebody thinks that because they've done one thing that's off track, that they're not perfect, then they have to like go all the way back to the beginning.
And it's just not true. It is just not true. One little stepping off the track, like let's say you miss a training session. The best thing to do is not miss the next training session. Make sure you get straight back on track. You don't just like throw it all out the window and go and buy Maccas, you get back on track.
Like, this is the thing about building discipline. You'll build discipline and new neural pathways the more often you do it. The unconscious mind will get rewired through repetition. And so that's what this is all about. We're building discipline frequency by being more consistent. So see how this feeds into each other.
You can see how this feeds into any aspect of your life. If you are somebody who stays up late during the week, [00:12:00] and then you think you're going to catch up on sleep on the weekend, this is another example of it. If you go to bed at the same time each night, approximately, and then wake up at the same time each morning, approximately, you're going to be far better off as far as your energy is concerned, compared to if you just sleep in on weekends. Proven fact.
And you've probably felt it. Like if I oversleep, if I don't have to get up and I just let myself wake up naturally, I wake up at my normal time. Do you know why? Because I've been doing it for so long. I have neural pathways that naturally wake up around 5am every single day. Might be a bit later during winter, a little earlier during summer.
But generally speaking, it's around that 5 a. m. mark because I've had an alarm set for that in the past. And I wake up for it. But these days I wake up before my alarm. And this isn't to like gloat. This is to say, I had to retrain my neural pathways. This was not an easy path to begin with. I have been through adrenal fatigue.
[00:13:00] I used to be super fatigued in the morning, have to drag my ass out of bed. So this is not something that I'm preaching about and haven't done myself. You know, like I always say to people, I'd never get somebody to do something that I wasn't willing to do. So that's why discipline and consistency is something that I feel like I really embody.
And I won't talk about anything that I'm not embodied in. So I want you to give this a go. I want you to start thinking about how you can bring something in, in a daily habit way. In a daily, small, tiny moments way, that's going to be so much better for you as far as your discipline is concerned. So that you're not going to burn out.
So you stop doing stuff that you really don't like. So that you actually bring the things into your life that you really do like, because that's what you're going to have the energy for. And that's, what's really going to drive you forward in 2025.
Now, let me just get, we're going to wrap it up now. I want to say how to [00:14:00] win a discipline.
Number one. Tiny, tiny, manageable steps every single day without fail. You just do it. You're going to have that mind that goes, maybe we'll skip today. Maybe you need to rest today. Maybe this, maybe that, maybe you just have the chocolate milkshake. Maybe you do, you know that voice? Even though that voice goes off, stick to your plan. Make a plan, stick to it.
As soon as you stick to it, you've just built a whole new dopamine cycle. And if you happen to go off track and go and have the chocolate milkshake, get back on track, get back on track the next day, get back on track that afternoon. Cause here's the thing about discipline and consistency. Sometimes discipline is doing the same thing every single day at the same time, but consistency is knowing that you can still get it done a little bit later.
So if your two year old woke you up in the middle of the night seven times and you're bloody tired and you don't want to get up at 5am, then let [00:15:00] yourself sleep, but make sure that you're getting your steps in, in the afternoon. Make sure you're lifting your weights. Make sure whatever the thing is that you're doing, you keep your word to yourself and you get it done because you are going to build that new neural pathway.
You know what this does, discipline frequency, we keep it high frequency, a high discipline frequency equals self trust. The more often you can discipline in a positive way, you're going to feed your dopamine cycle, which is going to give you positive reward internally. When we have positive internal motivation, this has us set bigger goals.
This has us being able to grow through things. It builds resilience. It helps you listen to yourself rather than the fear factor.
Think about how often you are on track and how often you are consistent over trying to be perfect. That's the next step. Track your consistency rather [00:16:00] than tracking your perfection.
This is a mindset shift because a lot of people are trying to do it right as opposed to just getting it done. Progress over perfection. Say that.
Think about what environments are more positive for you to be in. This is part three. What positive environments have you been in? Get in those environments more often.
Be around the people. If you're trying to work on your fitness, seems to be the topic I'm on today. If you're trying to improve your fitness, then hang around your fit friend. Don't hang around the people who just are lazy and want to sit around. Hang around the fit ones. Go for a hike. Invite someone to the beach and go for a walk at the beach, do things that are more active.
And then lastly, start to build more identity based habits. So if you came to vision 25, congratulations. In the quantum illumination process that I show you in there. It builds your identity. You get to meet your future self. You get to become your future self. So what habits did your future self tell you about?
[00:17:00] Step into that future self every single day. It actually is who you become. You're rewiring the brain, which rewires the body, which rewires the nervous system. And it brings forth a whole new identity for you. So if you're ready to take that next step, go right ahead, set yourself a goal. Can you please put it on your social media, put it on your stories, tag me @amymingin and share with me what it is you're working towards.
Like I am so darn excited about this year. I'm excited about the goals that people are telling me about. I'm excited about everyone's big visions that they're moving towards and I'd love for you to share it with me. So thank you so much, so, so much for having me in your ears today. It means the world to me.
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